By Matthew Britt, Founder of Network Oxygen
Do you ever notice that little voice inside your heading telling you things like “you can’t do it”, “you aren’t good enough”, “don’t even bother, it won’t work” or “that is never going to happen”. You know that voice? Does it ever say things like that to you? I am sure that you all know what I am talking about. That pesky voice that is so often negative and unsupportive towards us, and the things we are trying to accomplish. Did you ever stop to think about that voice and wonder why it never seems to want you to succeed? I know that I have. I’ve wondered why it won’t for once just stop trying to kill my hopes and dreams and let me go and accomplish them. I always just let the voice talk though, never really sure about why or what its reasons for sabotage were and never really knowing I could change its attitude.
Finally I was exposed to the truth, that I was actually the one who controls that voice, that I could change what was said to me, change its tone and ultimately turn that voice into the most supportive and positive friend I have. I was exposed to a book called the Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma, a book that has totally changed my life and one that I would hole heartedly recommend to anyone. This book taught me that I am the one who controls the voice; I am the one who decides what the voice says about what. It is me who thinks the negative thoughts and me who can in turn make all those thoughts into positive ones. It is something that takes work to do because we are exposed to all the negativity of our society through the news, media, friends, acquaintances, and most everyone we come in contact with, so as you see we are just hammered with negativity everyday but there is hope.
In order to start making that voice become a supportive and positive one there are certain things that must start to happen. One of those is that you must first realize its your mind doing the talking, so you must begin by reprogramming your thoughts, this is done by being conscience of the negativity running through your brain. Once you are aware of all the negativity you make steps that will slowly but surely lead you away from the killer. Start replacing any negative thought with something positive, as soon as you think something bad immediately do your best and toss that thought out and think something good. Do your best at making sure that all of your thoughts are positive all of the time, don’t worry if in the beginning you are having a tough time just continue working at it and it will begin to make a big improvement on your daily life.
Once I began to see improvements in my own thinking I started saying positive thoughts to myself periodically through out my days as a way to reinforce the process. For example I would say things like “I am a strong and confident person, I can achieve anything.” “I am intelligent, I am successful, I am a great leader, and I have a Yes attitude.” Or my new one is “I am a successful billionaire” What ever it is that you want in your life and you want to accomplish if you are dedicated enough and believe it enough you will make it a reality. People may think that this stuff is corny and doesn’t work but in order to be successful we can’t allow ourselves to give in to the silent killer in our brains so what ever will get you around that hump of negativity I say give it a shot, it may work for you as it most definitely has for me.
Most of the time the people who are negative towards things like this are the same ones who hate their lives, aren’t happy most of the time and are the ones who never encourage or support the ones around them to achieve goals and dreams. I don’t want to be stereotypical but that has just been my experience so far. I hope that this gives you a little insight into your silent killer and helps you to sneak up and silently kill it. Until the next one, stay positive!!!